Tomboy Troubles

Welcome (back) to my blog dear reader! I am so glad you are here. 😄 I hope you enjoy your time here.

Wow. It has been a minute since I have posted. Summer is unusually busy this year and I apologize for not updating y'all more on my life.

Lately I've been having more fun and inspiration when I write out my thoughts by hand. And the last post I did on fear and the future as well as this one are more word vomit type posts. (Yeah, I said word vomit. I grew up watching Mean Girls, okay?😄) So if it seems less organized than usual that is why. If you enjoy these types of posts let me know! I would love to chat with you! On with the post!

I have been a tomboy most of my life and the idea of a lot of girly things either did not or do not appeal to me. I wear make-up but not every day. I tend to wear it in a more natural look and use less expensive brands from a drug store. My nails are done sometimes but I do it myself rather than pay to have them done. And they are usually chipped pretty soon after I do them. I prefer being comfy to dressing up every day. I think you get the picture.

With the world today, there are definitions of what it means to be a woman, everywhere. From needing to wear certain clothes and having our hair and make-up on point every time we leave the house to needing a perfect body, the media, both social and more traditional are constantly shoving an idea of perfection down our throats. Even when girls and women are posting #NoFilter selfies, the culture of comparison causes lingering doubts since we "could never be as pretty as them."

Mmmhhmm, real talk. Some gals know their angles. And there is nothing wrong with that. Posting pictures you like of yourself is a good thing. As long as the intentions behind it are good. Just remember it is likely not what you think you are seeing. They probably took 30 shots to get 1 good one.

So, how the heck am I, a tomboy who cannot contour to save her life, supposed to feel beautiful and feminine? By looking at the true definition. The definition that was written by God Almighty, is the one I look to in order to discover who I truly am. No other definition matters. He calls me beloved and I am infinitely precious to Him.

I recently rediscovered a quote that might help explain what I mean. "Anything that is not the will of God is an illusion."-- St. Teresa of Avila

No wonder the definition and ideal the world gives leaves us wanting. The temporary-ness of the world is an illusion of satisfaction. That is not to say that we cannot or should not wear make-up or want to feel pretty but it definitely should not be our main focus.

When we make our focus Jesus, and living the life of virtue He desires for us, that is when we shall feel lasting joy.

When I want to feel fulfilled, pretty, et cetera do I fix up my hair and make up my face and go out wearing a gorgeous outfit? Sometimes. But that only works for a second. Or...do I pray to see the dignity of my family, friends and enemies? The true beauty of a person is not linked to their face, but the inherent dignity they possess as a human being. We are all beautiful, all precious and all are loved by God.

Being truly feminine or truly masculine does not come from looking a certain way. It comes from living out the gifts God gave us in the life He wills for us. I might not look or act exactly like the world says a woman should, but I do have a female soul and possess feminine gifts that allow me to live as a woman of God.

I might not be a mother but I can mother. God has blessed me with the gift of empathy so that I can relate to and feel the emotions and pains of those around me. This does not make me a perfect woman but it does add to my feminine soul as a woman. It does not matter that I prefer jeans over dresses or scrunchie ponytails over beachy curls. I am a true woman just as God made me.

I hope this encourages you dear reader. If there is no perceived thing that is beautiful in this crazy life, remember you are beautiful no matter what the chaos of life throws your way. I love y'all and I hope you can see the beauty in the crazy. Have a great week.

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