I'll Be Single Forever!

Welcome (back) to my blog dear reader! I am so glad you are here. 😄 I hope you enjoy your time here.

The blog is 6 months old! Whooo! I am so glad to be back and posting. My computer is not completely fixed but the temporary solution is still holding. Last night on Instagram I asked y'all to let me know what topic y'all wanted to see first. I gave it 18-ish hours and the winning topic was….(insert terrible drumroll impression here) Singleness as a vocation! Whoo! This is a topic that has been on my heart for a while and I am so excited to share it with y'all.

It is weird to not be in a relationship in 2019. I mean it is not as weird as it used to be but you still get odd looks when people find out you are single. Especially if you have never dated or hooked up with anyone. Or if you have in the past but you have decided to recommit yourself to a life of chastity.

So, singleness as a vocation. Like becoming a priest, a nun, a religious brother or religious sister? Nope. I mean living as a "normal" person, as a practicing Catholic, not joining a religious order, as a single lay person. Hold on. There is a vocation of not entering religious order and being single forever? Heck yeah there is dear reader! And (takes deep breath) it is a vocation toward which I have felt myself being drawn. Whew. That is a huge weight off my chest.

Now what does this vocation entail? It is the most unique vocation, in my opinion at least, for a couple of reasons. First off, since there are no permanent vows I, or anyone who follows this path, could get married someday. Secondly, it is a bit of an odd path to choose, even in the Catholic Church, since it is not talked about as widely as some other vocations, and even more so in the modern world with the hook up disposable relationship culture.

But what if I don't get married? What would my life look like as I lived out this vocation of singleness? The short answer is however the heck I want it to look. Within reason of course. I still have to follow God's laws and His path for my life. So here's the longer answer. In as much as I feel called to the life of singlehood I also feel called to be a teacher, a good daughter, sister and friend. This means that I will strive as hard as I can to do those things. I will eventually live on my own (maybe with a couple of dogs), drive to work in my own car, buy groceries, cook meals, et cetera, on my own. Now I will have friends and spend time with my family but I will ultimately be by myself. I can take myself on adventures all over the world! Maybe even learn to scuba dive like the image at the top of this post.

But what about loneliness? I am sure there will be times where you feel lonely. Dear reader, I hear you asking or perhaps someone has asked you these things. The truth is, yes. There will be times when I will feel lonely. To be perfectly honest though, going out and hooking up with a rando or even being in a God centered in relationship will not stop loneliness. Whaaatt??? It is true. human beings will not and cannot satisfy the deepest longings of our heart. Only Jesus can do that.

Living my life as a single person, the married vocation, entering a religious order, et cetera, every vocation has the goal of achieving ultimate union with God in heaven. The goal is the same but the way of getting there is different for everyone. There is also beauty and immense peace in each vocation as you find the path to take. I have found that peace as I have prayed for my vocation.

It is my prayer that you are able to discover the same peace no matter what God has called you to do. And may you always find the beauty in the crazy. Have a fantastic week and I hope you come back next Wednesday for another post!

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